How to Handle Your Bad-Influence Friends

by Kimberly Daly Farrell
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How to Handle Your Bad-Influence Friends

Friends are pretty awesome. They’re there to share a glass of champagne during the good times, and (hopefully) hand you a tissue when things aren’t going so great. But what happens when your bestie suddenly doesn’t seem to have your best interests in mind? It could be a spouse who doesn’t like hearing your morning alarm: “You seem tired. Why don’t you sleep in instead of waking up early to workout tomorrow?” A well-intentioned mother: “But lasagna is your favorite—have another plate!” Or a friend who doesn’t understand the new you: “You’re skipping happy hour to go to Zumba again? Loser!”

A little voice in your head might try to convince you to relax, go back to your “easy” existence, and focus your attention on making everyone around you happy. Don’t listen to that voice! Here are 3 questions to ask yourself instead:

1. Do I feel healthy and energized when I’m around him/her? Friends should lift your spirits and increase your happiness. If a friend or relative doesn’t fully support you—or the new you you’re trying to become, then the two of you may not be connecting in an authentic way. Instead of trying to please someone else, start a conversation with your buddy. Saying something like, “Hey, I’m on this health-kick right now, and I’d love for you to have my back,” might help your friend realize she’s not being as supportive as she could be.

2. Am I my kindest and healthiest self when I’m with him/her? If the answer is no, you’ll need to really think about your relationship. Friends who drink too much, eat junk food constantly, gossip about others, or focus on material things will influence you to do the same—it’s human nature to want to connect with others at their level. Again, start a conversation. It could be that your friend doesn’t even realize she’s always pushing you to finish her cheesy fries, or poo-pooing your invitations to join you for a hike.

3. Is it time for me to make new friends? Not every relationship was designed to fulfill all of your friendship needs. Now that you’ve adopted healthy new habits, you might be ready to make new friends who enjoy doing what you now love. Start saying hi to the other guys at the gym, and strike up a conversation with the gal on the yoga mat next to yours after class. You don’t have to totally dump your old friends (Remember that Girl Scouts rhyme, “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, and the other gold.”), just start seeing less of them and make sure you’re comfortable with the situation when you do hang out.

Already got a group of health-minded friends? Here are 6 ways to stay social that won’t sabotage your fitness or nutrition goals.

What are your tactics for dealing with a bad-influence friend? Share them in the comments below!

About the Author

Kimberly Daly Farrell

Kimberly Daly Farrell is a contributor at MyFitnessPal. A certified health coach and self-proclaimed running addict, Kimberly studied integrative nutrition and has completed three marathons. She has previously held editorial positions at Shape, Glamour, Fitness, and Good Housekeeping magazines. You can follow Kimberly’s running adventures on her personal blog, Some Kind Of Runderful.


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